Help no one has answered. I would love an older woman's advice but I just want it answered. please?

You may have just found out why her other bf's cheated. I am sorry but she sounds like a nut. You probably feel comfortable around her because she is older but look you are too young to throw your life away on a woman so much older than you and especially one with a child. This situation is toxic for you and you should get out of it before you get more attached to the child or the child gets too attached to you. Her son will be the one most hurt in the long run. Find a woman closer to your age without children and these paranoid/emotional problems. YOU deserve better but until you convince yourself of that things will never get better.