HELP!????????????????

K first off, holy long post. Second it sounds like she's afraid, she apparently has had several bad relationships i her past and is not eager to stay in one that appears (to her) to be another one. Sounds like you both want to be together, I understand you do, and maybe she was done with her pissyness after the little break and wanted to move on, but you kept pushing the subject which might have made things worse. Her pot shots seems like a somewhat childish way of getting back at you for making her upset. I'd say just drop the subject entirely, like she said. Stop pushing it and do something for her that says "i'm sorry i was an asshole" even though i'm not calling you an asshole, you were just confused cause it was happening to you, you did everything that you knew to be right. But she sees it as though you were and still are pushing something she would rather let go of, cause she wont admit that she was wrong to begin with. So get her a gift, have some make up sex and move on with your lives. Everybody wins, yeah?